October 28, 2012

Life and Balance

Wow, it feels like too long since I have posted. I have been super busy with work, work, and more work. But because I worked a lot I got Thanksgiving off! Heck yes! I also spent this weekend (when I finally had some time off) working on the new house. Pictures and info to come soon! This is the first time this week I have even been able to sit on my computer for longer than 5 minutes with internet access! 

Therefore, balance in life has been something I have been thinking about. A lot of people have been posting about this subject, so I know I am not alone in feeling a little warn, confused, etc...

I think that we as woman, we are amazing. We truly do a lot. We need acknowledge that. As a woman, there are some pretty amazing things that I do and there are many things that I feel like I should do and I feel like I need to balance those. I know my situation may not be ideal, but I know that if I learn to balance it now, one day I will be where I want to be.

I need to balance being...

A wife. My husband is my rock. He has been with me and will be with me my whole life. We are excellent together. He values me and I value him. Despite some beliefs, I believe in traditional roles as a wife. I believe in a clean home and taking care of my husband. Before I had a job, I would make sure Kevin came home to a home cooked meal on the table. I would usually be able to get his lunch packed for the next day. Now that I work evenings, that has become harder. I am working to be better at that. It has been easier for me to start with lunch, and the other day I found a recipe I could make ahead and have him throw in the oven for dinner. (I need more of those if any of you have recipes like that!!) It's important for me to know that Kevin is taken care of. That he doesn't have to worry about food after work. I want him to be able to come home and unwind. Kevin most definitely does not expect this out of me. I do it because I enjoy to know that I am putting food in my husband's belly. Especially when it tastes good (because sometimes it doesn't). Again... its the whole traditional thing that I so strongly believe in.

A nurse. I work in the Acute Care Unit. I work 8hr days (although I would rather it one day be 12hr days). I work evening shifts. My husband wakes up and goes to work. I wake up and he is gone. I get home and he is ready to go sleep. It is not ideal, but it is what we need right now for the future. I supervise other nurses, I handle many patients and their family. I work with doctors to ensure the best care possible. I am still learning so this makes it hard.

A businesswoman. I firmly believe the key to making any marriage work is being able to work together like business partners. Yes Kevin and I love each other, but love can do some crazy things. We have to be able to be business partners to be able to make rational and capable decisions for our family. He keeps our books, but I okay every decision. He respects me enough to go through me and we always work out every detail of our financials together. We make our decisions together.

A blogger. While this is still a hobby of mine, I hope to continue for years to come and make it memories for my family. I never feel or want to feel obligated to blog. My blog is my personal space, a hobby, but it's also something that I see as a job. A fun job that I hope never ends. And a job that I do not get paid for. But that is okay with me for now.

Me. If we are going to be talking about time management, I have to take time out to be me. Yes I am always me, but me time means the time it takes me to do simple things from brushing my teeth and showering, to getting my hair done. It takes time to be me! I also have to take time to read or watch TV because those are things little ol me wants and likes to do!

A sister. I am probably not the best sister ever, but I love and will go to the moon and back for my sisters. I try to make an effort to call them, text them, and check in. Let me preface this by saying that my sisters are two women who are not materialistic, but I love thinking of gifts for them. My middle sister just turned 21 and I loved how her face lit up at the gift that I got her. I love them to pieces. I also have a sister-in-law whom I now am lucky to count as family.

A daughter. I love my parents. They made me into the person that I am today. I also try and call them as much as I can and visit when I can. I could never repay them for all they have done for me and could never put into words how much I love them. I am blessed to have a good relationship with them. I also am lucky to have in-laws who have graciously welcomed me into their family and make me feel like their own.

A granddaughter, niece, and cousin. My family may live 3000 miles away but I would do anything for them. I don't get to see them all too much, but I do think of them often. I am also lucky to be counted as family within Kevin's family.

A girlfriend. I haven't made many girlfriends here. They tend to move away... ;-). I have girlfriends in Las Cruces that I try and keep up with and one of my good girlfriends in Africa. But I think it is definitely hard not to have a girlfriend to go out to drinks or dinner with or just to hang out with. 

One day I will be a mother, an aunt, and a caretaker. I hate to think of that last one, but I know that these are three roles that will be the biggest blessings, time consuming, and something all the preparation in the world may not prepare me for.

A mistress. ONLY KIDDING! Sorry guys, I had to lighten the mood somehow!!!

There are the many roles I need to learn to balance. I know this is hard, and that there are areas of improvement. I know that I work hard and that is the best I can do right now. I make sure that we meet our needs and our wants in our lives. 

This is my life right now. Sorry for such a long post, but sometimes it feels good just to write for days and not edit a darn thing!


  1. Oh I just love this post! I may steal the basic idea of that's okay! :)

    What I also found interesting is what you said about traditional roles about husband and wife. I feel that I am similar to you that when I do get married, I will strive to be a "traditional" wife. I don't see it as roles as much as I see it as something I enjoy to do. I love to be hospitable to others and I think that role as a wife fits right in there. But I totally understand how people who don't enjoy doing the "wife" duties would say they are against the "traditional" roles.

    Woah, sorry for the novel comment! Great post though! :)

  2. Great post Lauren. You've mentioned before that you would like an easy way to leave dinner for the hubs so you should check this out: http://www.sixsistersstuff.com/2012/09/slow-cooker-freezer-meals-make-8-meals.html

    This is the best thing we have tried to help us eat at home. Basically they put together 8 recipes (including a shopping list) that you put together and freeze until you're ready to crock pot them. Some of the meals may be a little larger for just the two of you but that could also mean lunches for the week. Every single one of them was easy to prep and tasted pretty good. They also make suggestions for sides that we tried but we didn't feel that they necessarily went well with the meals. But hey, kuddos to them for trying to make our lives easier. I hope this helps.

    1. Thanks! Yeah those meals look good! Probably good weekend meals for me since I leave and my husband doesn't usually get home until about 7-8 hours after me on weekdays. Thanks again Angie!

  3. Bahaha a mistress--that was a good one :) We all need to do a better job at balance buddy...don't be so hard on yourself. Especially since you recognize the issues and how you want to change--that's the first step.

  4. We are always learning as nurses! Somedays, are more humbling then others! =)


  5. LOVE this! It really made me take a step back and look at my own situation to see how I can balance it all. I think it's easy to lose sight of the balancing act and concentrate on one or the other. I know that has been increasingly difficult for me lately. Some days I am so busy, I don't know what's up or down, or my left from my right. I think it's great you put all of this out there! :-)

  6. Balance is so hard for everyone! And I feel like the older we get the more full our plates become. I need to learn to prioritize better.

  7. We are adjusting in that same work mode/food mode too. Now that I am doing nights I don't see my husband until my 2 days (if I'm lucky) off so I do my best to make dinner and take it with me, leave it for him, nightly but I'm not exactly sure how that's going to work out with another job I have lined up. Good luck and be sure to share your secrets!

  8. I've been thinking about balance a lot the last few days too! It's definitely an issue for me, not sure if that's the right word to use, but it's something that I need to be better at as well. Life moves so fast and comes at us so hard, it's tricky finding balance sometimes. As soon as you think you've got it down, something changes. Good luck to you, I'm sure you will achieve it, the way you want it to be! xo

  9. i love this post. It's always a good idea to reevaluate your life and your priorities. I find myself doing the same thing at least every couple months. I love having my husband to talk to though, he is so incredibly supportive of whatever goals I want to accomplish.
    I also hope you get 12 hr shifts eventually. 3 days on, 4 days off is great. :)


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