December 19, 2012

Splitting Holidays

Holiday time married. This is my first holiday season married. It can be stressful. Between the demands of both sets of parents and the desire to start new holiday traditions as a couple, it is hard to divide your time and keep everyone happy. In fact, figuring it all out can divide even you two. Somehow it is different then when we were dating all those years.


Since you can’t be in two places at once, try some of these ideas. And remember that your families should accept any decision you make. You and your husband are a family now and you do what you want.


Split the day in half. Go to his house Christmas Eve and yours Christmas day. Or his family's house in the morning on Christmas day and yours in the afternoon.


Split/Rotate holidays. If splitting days is too stressful or families are not in the same city, do Thanksgiving with his one year and yours the next. Same with Christmas! That allows you to really focus on the family and share every part of the holiday.


Invite people to you. Do your own holidays at your home and invite both sides over. Whomever wants to come is welcome to!


Celebrate on different days. If your families are willing to wait, do Christmas with your family on Christmas day and Christmas with his family the next day. Why not right?


How do you determine which family to spend time with during the holiday season?

15 comments:

  1. Awesome post! I was literally just chatting w/ my boss this morning about hectic holidays can get, especially the first couple years of being married! Last year was our first and it was actually easier than this year is shaping up to be!

    It's tough- but we make time to see EVERYONE, even if it's a couple days before or after actual Christmas.

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  2. hahahah we sort of do splitting somewhat, but we not only have parents, but grandparents that vie for our attention! LOL lucky Us LMAO no its a blessing... but it makes it difficult! so the last few years we have been starting our own traditions! and leaving everyone to do their own thing LOL
    Christmas day last year we went to his fam for a few hours... and then to my parents for a few hours!
    and this year... ill be going out to my granny christmas eve for a bit, come home, snuggle with my guys (hubby and son LOL), do christmas morning just us three! We even went out to breakfast last year christmas morning which was lovely, opened gifts, hubby and I snuggled during nappie time, and then his family then my family! :P everyone was happy but we didnt have hours of things to do on a checklist to get done! :)

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  3. It's definitely hard splitting your time with families! If you're anything like me you will feel guilty if you spend one seconds longer at one side of the family's holiday event over the other! And I can tell you that it gets even harder once you have little ones! But, everyone understands because they're usually in the same boat!

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  4. This is my least favorite part of being married. We do as you suggest-kind of. I wonder if our parents will become less demanding after we have kids? Hopefully so! Great post!

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  5. I'm not even married and I can relate to this blog post. I've been in a committed relationship for 7 years now and I having to decide where we're going for the holidays. It's very stressful. Thank God we live in another state now, this way we can relieve being overwhelmed. My mother keeps asking if we're coming for Christmas but I tell her after the holidays... Then she asks again. Another reason why we like to spend time alone on Christmas is because that's our anniversary date.

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  6. The joys of marriage. I know a lot of couples who split the day between both parents. Tommy and I find it easier to just switch off holidays every year. So far this seems to be the fairest way and works for us. I love reading how others handle things like this.

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  7. Splitting holidays can be so stressful. It's nice to know that every married couple feels this way. I am pretty much a Christmas brat. I can't imagine not spending Christmas morning at my mama's! :) Luckily my hubby understands. Next year, though, we will be spending it at our house, not hers, since our little one will be old enough to have some fun with his toys. We'll see how that goes. :)

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  8. Augh this is such a hard topic for us...right now we're rotating every holiday...but it's really annoying for me because that's what Cody's entire family does, so we're never all together at the same time. I'm hoping this comes to an end and we come to an agreement to celebrate the holiday on a non-holiday day. Eventually we'll celebrate Christmas morning at our house and my fam will just come to us.

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  9. this is honestly my least favorite part about being married... my hubs is an only child... and only grandchild. and since my brother is in the navy and his family lives 10 hours away, there is a lot of stress put on us to see everyone. it's hard... we always manage to do it, but there's always a lot of driving and not a lot of sleep. it's totally worth it, because you never know how long you have with your loved one... but it is exhausting.

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  10. From John and I's first Christmas together we always spent it with his family. Yes, not to fair to my family but Christmas is not as big of a deal on my side. For the past 5 Christmas's we've been too far away to go home. So we just celebrate with the four of us. As much as it sucks being away from family, it is nice to not be rushed and just spend the holidays at our own house.

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  11. Love this and find this valuable to any couple!!! New follower as well! How are you liking the new nursing career??

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  12. oh dear - next year we are starting to wake up at our own house and do OUR family traditions - then we'll head over to the grandparents house...we have been alternating every year but we're gonna start doing things our own way...I want our own little family memories :) of course when it's the 2 of you it's not AS hard but it can still be stressful - good luck!

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  13. We do the Rotate Holidays option. We don't really have any other options since his family is across the US. Not sure what we'll do when we have kids though... I would hate to drag them away at Xmas!

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  14. Aw. Enjoy your first holiday married! We do the day before Christmas Eve with my husband's parents, Christmas Eve with my parents, and Christmas alone. It sort of works out. LOL.

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