January 7, 2014

The Last Name

I always ALWAYS knew that I would take my husband's last name.
And no I would not hyphenate it.

(I would feel like an outsider from my kids and their father having the same last name. Plus my last name would be 28 letters long not including they hyphen...what a mouthful. Plus that would be way to long a name for my mailbox)

Generally at birth your last name is your dad's last name. For me, this was the most important man in my life at the time.

Then you run along in this game called life and you find this guy you want to marry. You choose him. You choose him to be the person you spend the rest of your life with.


When I chose him, it was natural for me to want to take his last name.

Plus as my dad said in the most beautiful toast I have ever heard, my husband takes full responsibility for me. He is now the most important man in my life.

Now why am I telling you all this?
Because on my Facebook account I have both my maiden and married name. 
I did this so people could still find me if they didn't know my married last name.
Now I have changed it to just my married name.

When some people send me mail (including some of Kevin's family) they send it to me with a hyphenated last name. I did not hyphenate my last name. I took his and will give his to our children.

What did you guys do to your name with your personal Facebook? 
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18 comments:

  1. Never married! Ha but I did change my last name on FB to my middle name because it matches with the blog and business :) Glad you changed it because I was getting confused :P

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  2. I have my maiden name is ( ) and my married name as my FB.. I think to each their on their reason. I took my husbands last name but I woudl always joke that I wouldn't . Now I couldnt' image anything like it.

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  3. I use my first and middle name only, but that is just so my employees cannot find me. Prior to that, I used my maiden name. One day I might change it, but for now I think leaving my last name off is the best thing for me.

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  4. I changed my facebook last name and left my maiden name off. I did get some comments that a few folks were confused "Who is Rachel G?" because they were used to knowing me by my maiden name, but I think everyone is used to it by now! And like you, if I had hyphenated, my last name itself would have been....5 syllables long. A little too much.

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  5. At first I used both names on fb. A few years ago ok I thought f it. I'm just putting my married name. If ppl don't know it then I probably don't want to be friends with them anyway.

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  6. I just use my married name and agree with Jen above that if you don't know my married name we probably aren't such good friends.

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  7. I did not hyphenate my name and I did not replace my middle name with my maiden name (some people told me to do that). I have my last name on my FB but my maiden is in parenthesis. That's just how it is. I have friends who have done both and some that put their married name before their maiden so they can still be found. To each their own!

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  8. I'm not married yet, but as soon as we get married, I'll be changing my last name to his- both legally and for Facebook/all social media. I thought briefly of hyphenating my last name, but that would make it 14 letters, which is way too long!

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  9. If/when I get married, I will change all of my accounts legally and social medially to my husband's, both my mom and stepmom have their respective last names on their profile and then they have an option on fb I believe where you can have your maiden name show up in (). My stepsister's mom has her first name maiden name first married name and current married name on hers and I think that's overkill, but to each their own I guess.

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  10. When I get married, I'm going to hyphenate my maiden name and married name. I understand people's reasons for both wanting to keep their maiden name entirely and for switching to their married name entirely. I like the idea of having both because one has been a part of me up until that point (marriage) and the other one will be a part of me for the REMAINDER of my life. I like the idea of cozying them up together. :)

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  11. We haven't gotten married yet but I plan on taking his last name and as soon as we get married I will change it on Facebook too. My last name isn't supposed to be my last name, ha ha. It's a confusing story but when my grandparents got divorced when my dad was a boy my grandma was pretty ticked and changed my dad's entire name, first, middle, and last!

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  12. I use my first name, maiden name, last name (husband's last name) on my personal Facebook and as part of my personal Instagram name. Like you, I did it so that people who I know from the past would know who I am. In the past, when I've sent mail to people who don't know me so well now (example: I sent a card to the family of one of my former teacher's who died) I also included my maiden name between my first and last name. I just didn't want people to be like "who's this?" because I did move away from home right after getting married, so people from home don't really know me with my new last name. For me, people I've known my whole life with a certain last name (particularly friends and people close in age to me), I still refer to with their original last name. It takes a while to get used to a new last name when you've known someone as something else for so many years and that names seems to flow and seems more natural. I don't know if that makes sense.... :)

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  13. I DID keep my first last name (father's last name), dropped my second last name (mother's maiden name), and added my husband's last name. My reasons are more cultural, and not out of respect for my husband. I am originally from Mexico and many of the married older ladies I knew/know do it this way and have done it this way for many, many years. The word "de", which means "of", is also added between the father's surname and the husband's surname! Too much hassle and mystery if you ask me, but I love it. I embrace it. And the best part? My all-American husband understands it! :-) Doesn't apply to all Hispanics/Latin Americans/Etc, of course! Thank you for sharing!

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  14. Do you say your middle name is your given middle name or your born last name is your middle name? Not sure if this is just a Southern thing :)

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  16. I only use my maiden name on Facebook as my middle name. It reads as first name, maiden name, married name. Like you, I only did that so people could still find me. BUT, I've been married for almost four years now so I should probably change it to my married name only. I honestly hadn't given it any thought until I read your post. Now I'm thinking it's time to drop the maiden name! Thanks for the idea! :)

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  17. I definitely changed my last name! I wanted to be a Kellogg!!! ;-) On facebook I have my name as Susannah Kellogg but put my maiden name in perenthesis (it's the maiden name option on facebook) so people who didn't know my new name could find me.

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  18. I intend to take my fiance's last name when we get married and I won't be hyphenating it either. We discussed it and if it had sounded good, maybe I would have but no, definitely not!

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