May 28, 2018

Six Year Anniversary

Six years ago, Kevin and I were married. We were lucky to grow up with each other and then marry each other. From the second I sat next to the tall guy with braces and a good smile, I was full of excitement and anxiety. We fell in love with each other and I learned how incredibly intelligent and kind he is. I knew I wanted to wake up in his arms every single day for the rest of my life.

Six years later all of those things still remain true. There were things I would never have imagined we would go through together, but turns out they made me stronger and I love him more.

So Kevin, here are six things we have been through that made us stronger together:

We tested the "in sickness and in health" part of our vows. We immediately grieved the loss of my grandmother and your grandfather. I tore my ACL and you carried me in and out of the shower, you sorted and made sure I took my medications, and ran the household. Those times I was so thankful to be doing everything in life with you by my side.

We built a home together. It was a total team effort and we continue to run a beautiful home together. I could not be more proud and happy in our home.

Date nights may not be as often as they were before marriage, but I know we love each other even more fiercely. We work around each other's schedules to optimize our time. Both of us are strong and career focused at this point in our lives. I love seeing how your co-workers respect you so much. You work so hard and it shows.

We have explored together. We have and continue to travel to see different parts of the world. As we continue this adventure together regardless of what is going on, I will always love you. I am grateful for you and love completing life with you.

We found out we are having a baby together and I am ready and excited for this new chapter in our life!

Lastly, we have always put our love and respect of each other above all and therefore we have grown stronger together.

So here is to the next six years being a little more settled, but still full of new kinds of fun and adventure. I know they will be! I am so lucky to be married to someone so right for me. I can’t believe I have someone who loves me, puts up with me, makes me laugh, sleeps next to me, wakes next to me, rubs my back, zips up my dresses, tells me he loves me, compliments me, eats with me, listens to me, adventures with me, and creates a life with me. I know that there is no one in this world better suited for me. I hope I can be half the spouse and support to him that he is to me.

Happy Anniversary to truly the most handsome, hard-working, selfless, thoughtful man I know! I am so proud to call you mine and that I am yours!

Cheers to six years!

May 23, 2018

Marriage is Amazing

When we got back from our babymoon, I didn't think it was possible to love Kevin anymore. During the babymoon, I asked him: "do you still feel as excited to be with me as you did on our honeymoon?" We both agreed, yes, and even more so! Even though a babymoon isn't as emotionally exhilarating as coming off a wedding (with far less alcohol for me), it is special in its own way, because it is the start of a new chapter together.

I still feel like we are newlyweds, so when we got back and I realized our anniversary was in a couple of weeks, we couldn't believe it! I love my husband more than I did when we first got married. I am sure there are some married couples reading this and rolling their eyes. But I think when it is right, it is right! Every day is different and special. and what is great about blogging is that I can look back on all of this and learn from it!

In celebration of our six year anniversary, here are some of the things that have made our marriage successful (aside from the obvious good communication):
We Don't Go To Bed Angry
During my bridal shower, the ladies wrote in a tip book where they gave us some marriage advice. One of the best pieces of advice was "never go to bed angry". We always go to bed with a kiss goodnight and an I love you. It gives us both a peaceful nice sleep. 

We Keep Laughing
Kevin makes me laugh harder than anyone has ever made me laugh. We find the same type of humor funny, which is helpful, but regardless, we always try to find light in situations and get a laugh out of it. 

We Don't Keep Score
If you feel like you are putting in 80% and your spouse is putting in 20% most of the time, then maybe, yes, there is an issue. but as long as it evens out to around 50-50, it's all good in the end. We do have some defined rolls through and I love that. He pays the bills and I clean the home. We know where we stand!

We Don't Sweat The Small Stuff
He leaves the bathroom cabinet open and his socks and shoes around the house. I feel the need to organize and reorganize everything. Little things like that should not make or break your relationship. You just need to learn to live with it! Sometimes we give each other gentle reminders, and who knows, maybe one day he will close the cabinet!

We Give Meaningful Compliments
You can literally make someone's day by giving them a compliment. Sometimes, it is hard to think of compliments when you live with someone 24/7, but if you make the effort and say, "you look handsome today" it will make their day. Doesn't it make your day when someone tells you "you're beautiful?"

We Are A Family
From the moment you and your spouse are wed, you are a family! Family is #1, above all else - so prioritize your relationship and your time together. schedule it if you need to!

We Let Each Other Know That They're Needed, Wanted, and Important
I think this is one of the most important parts of marriage. let the person know you want them, need them and that they're important in your life and you couldn't live without them. If you can live without them, then why are you married? I'm not afraid to let Kevin know that I can't live without him. When he takes out the trash or irons shirts (my two least favorite chores) I let him know that I don't know what I would do without him.

We Respect Each Other
I think the second you lose respect for someone, the relationship is over. I respect Kevin so much and I am proud to be his wife. I will always trust and respect him and no one will ever see any different. Privately, you can build each other up and use that respect to make each other better people. If your spouse does something that is not honorable, speak up and tell them that doesn't fly. Tell them when you are disappointed in their actions. Then learn your lesson and become a better person because of it. It is amazing to be in a relationship where you learn from one another and become a better person.

We Have Fun
Travel, experience new things, dine at new restaurants, get out and do things TOGETHER. Fun keeps everything together!


That's it!
What are your biggest pieces of marriage advice?
 
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