May 23, 2018

Marriage is Amazing

When we got back from our babymoon, I didn't think it was possible to love Kevin anymore. During the babymoon, I asked him: "do you still feel as excited to be with me as you did on our honeymoon?" We both agreed, yes, and even more so! Even though a babymoon isn't as emotionally exhilarating as coming off a wedding (with far less alcohol for me), it is special in its own way, because it is the start of a new chapter together.

I still feel like we are newlyweds, so when we got back and I realized our anniversary was in a couple of weeks, we couldn't believe it! I love my husband more than I did when we first got married. I am sure there are some married couples reading this and rolling their eyes. But I think when it is right, it is right! Every day is different and special. and what is great about blogging is that I can look back on all of this and learn from it!

In celebration of our six year anniversary, here are some of the things that have made our marriage successful (aside from the obvious good communication):
We Don't Go To Bed Angry
During my bridal shower, the ladies wrote in a tip book where they gave us some marriage advice. One of the best pieces of advice was "never go to bed angry". We always go to bed with a kiss goodnight and an I love you. It gives us both a peaceful nice sleep. 

We Keep Laughing
Kevin makes me laugh harder than anyone has ever made me laugh. We find the same type of humor funny, which is helpful, but regardless, we always try to find light in situations and get a laugh out of it. 

We Don't Keep Score
If you feel like you are putting in 80% and your spouse is putting in 20% most of the time, then maybe, yes, there is an issue. but as long as it evens out to around 50-50, it's all good in the end. We do have some defined rolls through and I love that. He pays the bills and I clean the home. We know where we stand!

We Don't Sweat The Small Stuff
He leaves the bathroom cabinet open and his socks and shoes around the house. I feel the need to organize and reorganize everything. Little things like that should not make or break your relationship. You just need to learn to live with it! Sometimes we give each other gentle reminders, and who knows, maybe one day he will close the cabinet!

We Give Meaningful Compliments
You can literally make someone's day by giving them a compliment. Sometimes, it is hard to think of compliments when you live with someone 24/7, but if you make the effort and say, "you look handsome today" it will make their day. Doesn't it make your day when someone tells you "you're beautiful?"

We Are A Family
From the moment you and your spouse are wed, you are a family! Family is #1, above all else - so prioritize your relationship and your time together. schedule it if you need to!

We Let Each Other Know That They're Needed, Wanted, and Important
I think this is one of the most important parts of marriage. let the person know you want them, need them and that they're important in your life and you couldn't live without them. If you can live without them, then why are you married? I'm not afraid to let Kevin know that I can't live without him. When he takes out the trash or irons shirts (my two least favorite chores) I let him know that I don't know what I would do without him.

We Respect Each Other
I think the second you lose respect for someone, the relationship is over. I respect Kevin so much and I am proud to be his wife. I will always trust and respect him and no one will ever see any different. Privately, you can build each other up and use that respect to make each other better people. If your spouse does something that is not honorable, speak up and tell them that doesn't fly. Tell them when you are disappointed in their actions. Then learn your lesson and become a better person because of it. It is amazing to be in a relationship where you learn from one another and become a better person.

We Have Fun
Travel, experience new things, dine at new restaurants, get out and do things TOGETHER. Fun keeps everything together!


That's it!
What are your biggest pieces of marriage advice?
 

April 5, 2018

Exploring Nature

Every year, my husband and I take a trip to Vail. We recently went and it was a Vail trip where I was not skiing. Some of his family comes together and it is a really great time. Generally while travelling, I am the kind of person who likes to see new things and not continue to go to the same places. Vail though, keeps bringing me back. I love going and gaining new insights of myself, unwinding, and coming back to focus.
I am a control freak. Which makes skiing an interesting way for me to unwind. When I stand on a slope, it always seems steeper than it is. My technique has been hard and long learned, but it goes straight out the window when I don't feel in control. Backwards I am (as Yoda would say). But hear me out, I use my legs to really dig into those turns. I don't feel in control when I am going to fast. I fear falling and hurting myself again. Technically I can be a good skiier if I feel in control down less steep slopes.
But I like being in control of my whole body. That is why I never do drugs or get wasted on alcohol. I want to be in full control. But if I am not in control at all, I am peaceful too. Being in a chair lift, calming. There is nothing I can do about that.

I continue to ski because despite the fear at times, it is a passion.
Similarly, I am not a good hiker, but I continue because it is a passion.

Hiking has taught me that I am not as sporty as I think. I do enjoy it. But looking at me hiking up a moderate hiking path, you would think that I never work out and that I hate hiking. Whereas people my age are around me shiny, healthy, and happy. Despite not being as sporty, I do know that I want an active lifestyle. If that means torturing myself to climb a mountain, then I do it. It is worth it at the top. I am seduced with the plains, majestic mountain tips, and beautiful conifers. It is like being in a postcard.

I need nature to clear my head. Sure, city living is nice, but I love clearing my head and just getting out into the beauty of the natural world. It is a place where you can let go of technology and stress. While on a beautiful hike or skiing--all your worries just disappear.

March 21, 2018

Did You Miss Me?

If you guys saw my Instagram, you know that there is some pretty big news around these parts: I am pregnant! I am so excited to document my pregnancy on this blog! I have always wanted to be a mother, and I am really looking forward to being pregnant and growing a healthy baby.

This hopefully explains my absence on here lately. One, I haven't been feeling all that great. And two, it was so hard to come up with things to write about when all I wanted to do was spill the beans. I loved keeping the secret between just my husband and I, but I have loved being able to share it with family and friends!

I will be posting occasional pregnancy recaps, so here it goes...

At first, I felt great. It almost didn't feel real that I was pregnant. We went to our first doctors appointment and my doctor said I was not out of the clear yet for symptoms.

And boy was she right. Morning sickness (which came in waves during the day, but was constant at night) and extreme fatigue (literally I am the girl that never naps and there were days I could not get off the couch) got me good. I also had the stuffy, clogged nose from the increase in blood volume. Ugh it has been a miserable first trimester.

I knew I didn't want to tell many people in the first trimester as the miscarriage rates are high, but I knew I wanted our families to know, plus, I was sick as a dog! We told them over Christmas and they were thrilled!

Now, as a nurse, I know some things, but women's care/OBGYN is not my thing. I know even less about children. So naturally, like any other millennial, I am trying to become a Ph.D in Google University. I have not even had the energy to get onto my computer, so I am begging all you moms out there to send me info!

First Trimester Recap:

How far along are you?
I’m almost 19 weeks.

When are you due?
August.

Did you get sick?
Very much so. I had such bad morning sickness and vomiting. The only thing that is okay is carbs. Sometimes some proteins are still making me sick.

What symptoms did you have?
My boobs grew almost immediately! Ugh. And they are so sore. As a larger chested lady (I was a 34DD before pregnancy), I was dreading even bigger boobs. I am already spilling out my bras and will need to get some new ones.

Fatigue. Not the 3pm slump-in-the-workday fatigue, this was different. This was full body fatigue and the type of exhaustion that keeps you from doing anything but sleeping. From about week 7-13, I took naps. As someone who had never napped before, this was so frustrating, because I couldn’t get my work done. However, I knew it was temporary, and I knew it was necessary for my body to rest for a healthy pregnancy. So, I gave into the naps. I still take them occasionally!

Breakouts. This didn't start until second trimester. I am hoping it improves as my pregnancy hormones regulate a bit.

Carb and sugar cravings. I just really craved carb-a-licious foods but not so much dessert. But luckily, I was working out consistently so it helped balance things out.

Dizziness. My blood pressure is on the lower end (not unhealthy low or anything) and if I get up too quickly or sometimes don't drink a TON of water, I can find myself to be pretty dizzy.

Congestion and bleeding. Picture this, I got my husband a steamer a couple years back for his shirts so he can quickly do them before work. Now I use it to help relieve some of the congestion I am experiencing. I also do have some mild bleeding occurrences.

Did you work out?
Yes! As someone who works out consistently I couldn’t imagine just stopping working out, especially when I felt up for it. I didn't work out as much and I shifted my workouts to be more cardio/body weight oriented instead of lifting.

Are you drinking alcohol?
While I am going to miss the glass of savignon blanc all summer long, no I am not drinking.

Are you going to find out the gender?
Yes! 

When did you start to show?
While my belly has definitely grown little by little. At first it just looked like I indulged in too much pizza. I didn’t truly look pregnant until I was 15-16 weeks. I woke up and Kevin noticed that my belly was much rounder than usual. It was like something had clicked! I went to put my jeans on and I couldn’t button them!

Are you going to post bumpdates?
Nope. And you are welcome. :-)


Did I cover everything? Any lingering questions?
If you have ANY suggestions of things I need and things I need to know, let me know! 
#firstkidalert

January 8, 2018

Guide to Edinburgh

Scotland. One of my favorite countries that I have visited. It is just mind-numbingly beautiful. To get Scotland started off right, we took a visit to Edinburgh.
At first, Edinburgh worried me. Parts come across as a touristy major city. But we found some perfect pockets that made Edinburgh the perfect place to start out my Scotland/England Trip. And yes, these pockets were very touristy, but those touristy attractions were worth it!
I did not have an itinerary in Edinburgh. And you really don't need one. Just get lost and enjoy the city that is full of character and history.
Edinburgh is built atop two extinct volcanoes. The best views of the city and my favorite place to go was Arthur's Seat. Arthur's Seat has the most incredible views of the city and was a fun little hike. 
For breathtaking views with an easier hike, Calton Hill should be at the top of your list. With panoramic city views and a couple of monuments on the top, it is a must visit!
We also did the Scotch Whisky Experience. It is the perfect place to get tastings of whisky from different regions of Scotland (so you can learn what regions you prefer) and so you can learn about how the Scots perfect their whisky. It is also insane to see the largest collection of Whisky in the world!
We of course, ate at the Elephant House which is where J.K. Rowling wrote Harry Potter. Good food, service, and atmosphere! Speaking of Harry Potter (my favorite books of all time) we strolled through Victoria Street which is the inspiration for Diagon Alley.
Edinburgh is very proud of their literary history and especially of Sir Walter Scott. He has a beautiful Victorian Gothic monument in Edinburgh. It just so happens also to be the largest monument to a writer in the world.
Europe is well known for their graveyards everywhere, and we loved visiting Greyfriars Kirkyard. We saw many graves of names that J.K Rowling used for inspiration for Harry Potter (Tom Riddle, McGonagall, etc..) and also saw Hogwarts! Yes, it is a real school! I also never knew about Greyfriars Bobby, but saw and learned about him. He is the only dog buried in the graveyard and you can rub the nose of a statue of him for good luck. This was a terrier who became famous for guarding his owners grave until he died. I later found this story out to not be real, but it is a really cute story.
While wandering around Edinburgh, it is hard to miss St. Giles Cathedral. It is beautiful!
As for touristy things we didn't do, that would be Edinburgh Castle. The price just seemed really steep to go in. However, it is a beautiful castle to look at with a lot of history.

As for where we stayed, we stayed at an Airbnb! We flew into London and took a train to Edinburgh. In my opinion, you do not need to rent a car. Edinburgh isn't all that big and you can absolutely view it on foot.

The best part of the trip is that we got to explore Edinburgh with friends. So what are you waiting for? Go explore!

January 1, 2018

2017 Year In Review

Another year! I swear this year went by faster than all other years! I love to read people's year in reviews and I have done one every year. So thanks 2017 for a great year! Can't wait to see what 2018 has is in store!
January- We got back from Maui and enjoyed staying in Lahaina and doing the Road to Hana. I spent time staying active exercising, skiing, and hiking.
February- Continued experimenting in the kitchen and shared some recipe failures. So funny! I also shared my tips for gifting meals and two great meals: Buffalo Chicken Sliders, Broccoli Tortellini.
March- Took our annual Vail trip and gave tips on how to plan the perfect ski vacation!
April- April meant the start of baseball season! My parents and I had a baseball date.
May- Kevin and I took a trip to explore some National Parks for our fifth year anniversary. 
Recaps are here:
Antelope Canyon {coming soon}
Bryce Canyon National Park {coming soon}
July- We took trips to the Canadian National Parks. I haven't done my blogging about them, but I did blog about the cute city of Calgary. I talked about how I travel while working full time.
August- We saw the total solar eclipse. It was so amazing! We also got away for a weekend and went camping with some friends. Then we got away for a weekend hiking with my cousin and spending time with family!
September- We took a trip to England and Scotland and it was amazing! It was great to get to see friends while we were there. I have blogged about going to The White Cliffs of Dover and Surrey.
October- Lots of little stuff happened all month and it kept me happy and busy. Shared a post about becoming a traveler.
December- I had to work Christmas but shared a Christmas wish for all. I also shared how I organize my Christmas shopping and some takeaways from 2017.

Happy New Year!
Let's see what 2018 has in store!
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